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Kill your anger before it kills you

Posted August 14, 2013 in Ankeny, Community Featured

In marriage, anger rivals lust as a killer. My guess is that anger is a worse enemy than lust. It also destroys other kinds of camaraderie.

Some people have more anger than they think, because it has disguises. When willpower hinders rage, anger smolders beneath the surface, and the teeth of the soul grind with frustration. It can come out in tears that look more like hurt. But the heart has learned that this may be the only way to hurt back. It may come out as silence because we have resolved not to fight. It may show up in picky criticism and relentless correction. It may strike out at persons who have nothing to do with its origin. It will often feel warranted by the wrongness of the cause. After all, Jesus got angry (Mark 3:5), and Paul says, “Be angry and do not sin” (Ephesians 4:26).

However, good anger among fallen people is rare (James 1:19-20; 1 Timothy 2:8; Ephesians 4:31). Therefore, one of the greatest battles of life is the battle to “put away anger,” not just control its expressions. To help you fight this battle, here are nine Biblical weapons.

• Ponder the rights of Christ to be angry, but how he endured the cross, as an example of long-suffering (1 Peter 2:21).

• Ponder how much you have been forgiven, and how much mercy you have been shown (Ephesians 4:32).

• Ponder your own sinfulness and take the beam out of your own eye (Matthew 7:3-5).

• Think about how you do not want to give place to the devil, because harbored anger is the one thing the Bible explicitly says opens a door and invites him in (Ephesians 4:26-27).

• Ponder the folly of your own self-immolation; that is, numerous detrimental effects of anger to the one who is angry — some spiritual, some mental, some physical and some relational (Proverbs 3:7-8).

• Confess your sin of anger to some trusted friend as well and as possible with the offender. This is a great healing act (James 5:16).

• Let your anger be the key to unlock the dungeons of pride and self-pity in your heart and replace them with love (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).

• Remember that God is going to work it all for your good as you trust in his future grace. Your offender is even doing you good, if you will respond with love (Romans 8:28; James 1:2-4)).

• Remember that God will vindicate your just cause and settle all accounts better than you could. Either your offender will pay in hell, or Christ has paid for him. Your payback would be double jeopardy or an offence to the cross (Romans 12:19).

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Grace Life Church of Greater Des Moines
Meets at Crocker Elementary
2910 S.W. Applewood St.
Pastor Seth Channell
Sunday: 9:30 a.m.

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