I’ll have to admit, when the oncologist used the words “rare” and “aggressive,” it took my breath away.
It didn’t help when he said, “We’re really haven’t come to an agreement on the best way to treat this.”
My wife and I sat on the doctor’s couch and tried to process his words. I couldn’t help but think about the promise we had made to each other years earlier. We vowed to be there for each other in good times and bad, in sickness and in health. We had made the commitment at a very young age to grow old together. We would have our children while we were young, and then enjoy the last few decades of our lives playing with grandkids and traveling the world. The word “cancer” never even entered our minds. And the thought of the most precious, genuine, loving human being I’ve ever known going through such an intense battle for her life was unbearable.
We faced the news like any followers of Christ would do: we asked people to pray. The word began to spread, and before we knew it, thousands of people were praying, literally all over the world. It was humbling and amazing. Within a few days we received a call from the doctor that a second opinion had been rendered, and the cancer was, in fact, not the rare and aggressive type, but a more common and treatable form. A surgery was scheduled, the cancer was removed, no further treatments were required, and she was declared cancer-free.
While I certainly don’t wish this kind of trauma on anyone, it definitely has been a great reminder of how important it is to have a healthy marriage, and it was a reminder of what a blessing it is for a family to have a deeply connected relationship within a church. I can’t imagine how much more difficult it would have been if we didn’t have a group of people collectively wrapping their arms around us and carrying us through this. And I can’t imagine what this could have done to us as a family if we hadn’t already enjoyed a very healthy relationship.
If you think your marriage could use a tune-up we’ll be spending the month of February at Pathway Church talking about “A Marriage Worth Having.” Topics include “Laying the Foundation” (Feb. 3), “A Love Worth Keeping” (Feb. 10), “Forgiving the Indefensible” (Feb. 17) and “Building Trust With an Imperfect Partner” (Feb. 24). We’d love to see you in person at 9 a.m. or 10:30 a.m. at the Johnston Middle School, or you are free to listen online at www.thepathonline.org.Pathway Church
Meeting at Johnston Middle School, 6207 N.W. 62nd Ave.
Pastor Dan Hudson
Services: 9 and 10:30 a.m.